Bookclub​

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First Chat​​​

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• Thoughts about the article? What did you agree & disagree with?

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• Any questions you'd like to ask the group?

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• The author proposed a spectrum: "transparency prioritizing polyamorists" versus "autonomy prioritizing polyamorists" - do you ageee with this spectrum?

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• Let's say this spectrum exists, where do you feel you currently sit on it? And where would you like to sit on it in the future?​​

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Second Chat

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• Any questions you'd like to ask the group?

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• Do you have boundaries? How explicit and clear are they? Do they change?

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• Do you communicate boundaries to connections? When and how?

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• What do you do if someone oversteps your boundaries?

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• The author shares they want to know before their partner sleeps with someone new, and to meet their metamors. They are concerned some people may experience this as controlling. How do you experience this?

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Final Chat

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• Any questions you'd like to ask the group?

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• ​​​​Can consent and transparency co-exist with freedom and autonomy?

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• ​The author speaks about navigating developmental stages: e.g. experimenting with autonomy, exercising independence, not conforming to social orders, etc. Do you feel you're in a developmental stage at the moment?​

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• "People with healthy boundaries demonstrate the most self love" - discuss.

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