Bookclub​

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First Chat​​​

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• Thoughts about the podcast? Any parts that resonated or felt challenging?

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• The hosts share that for them ethical non-monogamy means consent and communication. What does “ethical” mean to you?

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• "Monogamy is natural for humans"  1) agree / disagree? 2) does it matter?​​​

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Second Chat

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• The hosts share fear of abandonment as one of the hardest parts of ENM. How do you soothe or work through that fear in your own connections?​“

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• Monogamy is tied to ownership; ENM aligns with liberation.” Agree or disagree?

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• The link between colonialism and polyamory. Discuss.

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• Do you feel jealousy is an emotion to eliminate or embrace?

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Final Chat

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• The hosts mention female pleasure was suppressed to maintain patriarchal control. Where do you still see that legacy showing up in your life (if it does)?

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• The podcast links capitalism, patriarchy, and monogamy. How do you feel these systems still influence your dating choices today?

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• The podcast notes how people often equate commitment with ownership.
  how do you express commitment without control or exclusivity?​​​​

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Extra

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• What elements of monogamous culture do you still carry into ENM?

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• How has ENM / Polyamory expanded your view of how "to do" relationships?​

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