Bookclub​

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First Chat​​​

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• Initial thoughts on the article? Any insights? Did anyone dislike it?

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• Did any of the contributors’ experiences resonate with your own?

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• How do you feel about describing polyamory/monogamy being on a spectrum?

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• What do you feel this spectrum could look like? And where would you fall on it?

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Second Chat​

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• Has anyone changed their ENM relationship style recently, and what impact has it had?

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• Where is the line between compersion and people pleasing? *Compersion* = often described as the opposite of jealousy: a genuine, self-generated joy at your connection's joy

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• How do you hold space for the attractions of you and your connections, whilst creating safety?

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• Do you believe that wanting exclusivity - whether romantic, sexual, or emotional - is inherently possessive?

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Final Chat​​

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• A few contributors describe how their OCD, anxiety, or trauma interacts with their relationship style - has mental health impacted how you approach relationships?

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• Contributor Stef critiques turning poly/mono into identity categories - do labels help you feel empowered, or does it feel limiting?​

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• Do you feel you are currently in the exact relationship style / structure that you want to be in? If not, why not? What would you change? Do you think it will change in the future?